I have a rule for the 13-year old girls for whom I am a soccer coach: If they are going to have to miss a game, they are supposed to notify me personally in a timely fashion. This is not their parents' job. The girls are now old enough to take personal responsibility for their actions.
Here's the entire transcript of a voicemail I received late this morning, just before two matches scheduled for 1 and 4pm. The playing time for the games was sent to the entire team many days ago. Putting aside the tardiness of the call, do you think a couple of important items are missing from the message?
Hello, this is one of your soccer players, and I wanted to confirm what times the games were at, and if they are both in the afternoon, I can't make either of them, so can you call me back as soon as possible? Thank you.